Editorial Reviews. From Publishers Weekly. California-based pediatrician Karp offers a unique approach to the tantrums, melt-downs and overriding challenges . Perfect for expecting parents who want to prepare themselves for the challenging toddler years (which starts around eight months of age), this essential. Toddlers can drive you bonkers so adorable and fun one minute so stubborn and demanding the cover image of The Happiest Toddler on the Block Kindle Book; OverDrive Read; Adobe PDF eBook MB; Adobe EPUB eBook MB.
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Tips for a Happy Toddler and a Happy You. Dr. Harvey Karp's tips for the happiest toddler on the block. Dr. Harvey Karp is a pediatrician, child development. This streamlined revision of the breakthrough bestseller by renowned child-development expert Dr. Harvey Karp will do even more to help busy parents survive the “terrible twos” and beyond. In this revised edition of his parenting classic, Dr. Karp has made his innovative. eBOOK @PDF The Happiest Toddler on the Block: How to Eliminate Tantrums and Raise a Patient, Respectful, and Cooperative One- to.
This book contains advice and information relating to the care of toddlers. Youll be most successful if you keep in mind this one key fact: And the new thirty-item glossary of Dr. You want cookie! These superactive kids range from cheery to moody, stubborn, and defiant. But I can see that this isn't the case for most kids.
In fact she followed her around adoringly the rest of the day. We were stunned!
It was hilarious and terrifying! It's weird. And apparently very, very effective. This book no! Make mad! Book done? Me happy! If you don't want to read variances of the two sentences above then I suggest avoiding this book entirely. The author explains that by talking to your child like a caveman in what he calls "Toddler-ese," you'll stifle tantrums asap and have a happier and more cooperative child.
That may be true, but halfway through this book I was already banging my head against a wall with all his examples. Perhaps I would have a more respectful c This book no!
Perhaps I would have a more respectful child, but I'll have lost all respect for myself in the meanwhile.
I'll just keep yelling at my kids to shut up and hoping they'll listen. Just kidding, I know they won't listen. Dec 30, Leslie rated it really liked it Shelves: I was pleasantly surprised with this book. Not only is it an easy, quick read, but it's also really congruent throughout; everything fits together like a perfect puzzle.
It's like you've hired a personal parent trainer who has provided you with a complete "work out" plan, and all the parts work together for the general benefit. I went into it with the mentality of taking everything as a grain of salt is that the expression? My I was pleasantly surprised with this book. My most general satisfaction with it comes from the fact that I definitely feel like I understand my daughter better, and I understand myself as a parent better.
There are specific theories and suggestions that Dr. Karp presents that I found enlightening. I finally feel like it might be possible to discipline my daughter with love and be firm at the same time.
I LOVE almost all of his suggestions for encouraging "green-light" behavior; some of my favorites were "time-ins" as a way to cut down on the need for time-outs, "gossip" letting the tot overhear you telling other people--or her toys--how happy you are about something she did , and "special time" corny name but great idea: I liked the whole idea of going through "the side door" of your child's mind to encourage good behavior by catching others being good and by letting your child overhear you saying what kind of behavior makes you happy or sad.
According to Dr. Karp and it seems to make sense , children are more likely to believe praise and to conform to expectations if they overhear the information instead of being told it praise or being told to do it living up to behavioral expectations. At first I was skeptical about the overreaching applications and success of the fast-food rule and Toddler-ese, but then I had an testimonial-worthy experience. Today I was sitting on the couch by Emma. She kept trying to grab my book this very book from me, being extremely rough with the pages the library wouldn't be too happy about it , and I reacted like I normally would: This is Mommy's book.
Here, you can have your own book. So I figured, well, this is as good a time as any to try this stuff out.
So I arranged my face and tone of voice to imitate what I hoped was about a third of her emotions and said, "You want Mommy's book! Emma says, 'Book! I want book! So I tried it again, upping my intensity a bit, since apparently I wasn't hitting her "sweet spot. She looked up at me, and I could almost hear Dr. Karn's voice: Here you go! Here's a book just for Emma! I'm converted.
At least for today. Apr 02, Elizabeth rated it it was amazing Shelves: I have to disagree with most of the reviews of this book.
I read this book during a period of severe tantrums from my one year old, and a lot of the strategies suggested in this book really seemed to help.
Simply coming to the realization that my toddler was more like a little caveman rather than a little person helped dramatically. Before reading the book, I constantly was asking myself an anyone else near, "why is she acting like this?!?! Al I have to disagree with most of the reviews of this book. Also, some things I was doing wrong seemed so silly after reading the explanations. For example, a lot of parents make the mistake of always trying to distract their child when they're upset.
This is similar to reacting to friend who is telling you about a bad day like "hey, look at my shoes", not helpful. I got a lot out of this book, and my daughter's tantrums have decreased and are much more manageable now. Nov 18, Harmony rated it it was amazing. I loved this book.
I was so surprised to come onto Goodreads today and find that so many people gave the book low or mediocre ratings! I think that it basically comes down to doing what you feel is comfortable and successful. Perhaps the methods that Dr. Karp recommends don't sit well with all parents, or don't work for all children.
I really felt like the book further opened my eyes to how toddlers see the world. Many of things he recommended, I already do with the toddlers I babysit. The new id I loved this book. The new ideas I gained from the book have only increased my skills in communicating with toddlers, working with them as a team instead of fighting for the desired behavior, and ultimately teaching these mighty spirits in little bodies to respect self and me.
This book continually had me chuckling. Feb 16, Sally rated it it was ok Shelves: I think it's important to relate to your kids, to try to understand where they're coming from, to even speak to them on their level, respecting their abilities. But I will not get on the floor and cry in baby-speak just because my 2 year old is doing it!
There are better, gentle, more dignified ways.
I was surprised that I didn't like this book I actually watched the video as much as The Happiest Baby on the Block because there were some ideas in the baby book that are right-on.
Not so with the I think it's important to relate to your kids, to try to understand where they're coming from, to even speak to them on their level, respecting their abilities. Not so with the toddler book, in my opinion. May 15, Lynne rated it liked it. A solid basic parenting book for toddlers, although with a somewhat strange twist about considering your toddler to be a caveman.
Most of his points are very good basic parenting advice, but the "toddler-ese" thing is a bit strange. Tried it with some of my patients and some of the parents out-right laughed at me or looked at me like I lost my mind and it didn't really actually help with the kid's distress.
Definitely, it doesn't work on Spenser who just looks at me like I'm nuts and with an exp A solid basic parenting book for toddlers, although with a somewhat strange twist about considering your toddler to be a caveman. Definitely, it doesn't work on Spenser who just looks at me like I'm nuts and with an expression like, "Why aren't you talking to me in normal English like you normally do?
I really liked Dr. Karp's Happiest Baby on the Block because it was so straight forward. This book?
Not so much. He advocates talking to a child in what I find to be a silly and non-sensical way. If a child has a tantrum about say being hungry, for example, you're supposed to tell her: I just can't do this toddleres I really liked Dr.
I just can't do this toddlerese he suggests. Charlotte understands me. I don't speak in long sentences with her, so I don't need to resort to talking like this.
Also, I really didn't like his suggestions about how to praise your child. He suggests you put little check marks on the child's hand whenever he or she does something worthy of praise. Then you're supposed to go through and tell your child ALL the wonderful things he or she did during the day during bedtime. We heaps tons of praise on Charlotte, but I kind of feel like parroting all of that back at the end of the day seems a little too much.
I just didn't find anything useful with dealing with tantrums.
I'm glad I checked this out from the library and didn't buy it. One area of good information: Karp's suggestion that trying to distract a toddler doesn't help them feel better. They're not babies anymore and toddlers need to work out the issues. Distracting them won't stop them from being unhappy. The problem? Charlotte is a really happy baby, and she gets over things quickly, but sometimes she can't get herself to stop crying.
Distraction works in this case! She needs something else to focus on. Her needs have been met, she just needs a little extra help to stop crying. But I can see that this isn't the case for most kids. I was actually surprised by how much I got out of this book.
I never really used Dr. Karp's Happiest Baby on the Block techniques, although that was mainly because our little one was already older when I read it. But I thought I would check this one out, as I needed a little guidance for the toddler years! Many of Dr. Karp's techniques sound a little ridiculous, and they honestly feel a little ridiculous at first, but I think they work. It's all about respecting your toddler by acknowledging how I was actually surprised by how much I got out of this book.
It's all about respecting your toddler by acknowledging how they feel, but in a way that they will understand. Setting clear limits and enforcing them is also paramount. I have been trying out the "Fast Food Rule" and "Toddler-ese" with my son, and I think they have helped him to feel more understood, and it gets us back on the right track when he starts to get upset about something.
I don't use toddler-ese quite the way that Dr. Karp does I just can't quite make myself talk to him like he's Tarzan , but using shorter phrases and repeating them seems to work. Overall I think the focus on respect and praising positive behaviors is a really good way to think about the next couple of years. Toddlers aren't deliberately "bad" most of the time - they're just learning about their world, and we need to remember that.
I picked it up last week at a bookstore's going-out-of-business sale, and I have mostly just been skimming it.
But I had to stop, because it was so strange! He also advocates speaking to your child in "caveman" language when trying to stop misbehavior or tantrums. Here is an example: You want cookie! Emma Cry! You want! Nooo cookie! Um, really? Not in my house! I can think of much better ways to parent my child than treating him in such an undignified, condescending manner.
Don't waste your money on this book! Oct 11, Gail rated it it was amazing. In authors as in blind dates, arrogance is a major turn-off. But confidence? When bold claims turn out to be accurate, a legend is born. But Karp is the real deal. While the next edition would benefit from more humility — as well as dropping the infomercial speak e.
Yes, he brazenly points for the center field bleachers; but he makes good. It was a very interesting read. His basic premise is that toddlers are little cavepeople: He talks a lot about how parents have to be an ambassador: He divides toddler behavior into three categories: He gives a great deal of advice on how to deal with each of these three types.
I thought that this was a very honest book about parenting a toddler, despite the fact that some of the things that he said were rather jarring.
Some of his advice is very much in opposite to other books, and what I think most parents think is the "right" way to parent. For example, he really emphasizes making compromises, and in at least one example encourages some white lies. Not exactly the type of advice I expect from a parenting book.
You say, Mommy hold me! I kept repeating the technique as she progressed through a few demands over the course of 5 — 10 minutes. But, the point is that the situation ended in JUST 5 or 10 minutes not an hour or more as it has sometimes been in the past. For me, that moment showed me the validity of this technique.
Post a Comment. Karp has made his innovative approach easier to learn—and put into action—than ever before.
And the new thirty-item glossary of Dr. The result: Toddlers can drive you bonkers…so adorable and fun one minute…so stubborn and demanding the next!
In one of the most useful advances in parenting techniques of the past twenty-five years, Dr. Karp reveals that toddlers, with their immature brains and stormy outbursts, should be thought of not as pint-size people but as pintsize…cavemen.
Having noticed that the usual techniques often failed to calm crying toddlers, Dr. Karp discovered that the key to effective communication was to speak to them in their own primitive language. When he did, suddenly he was able to soothe their outbursts almost every time! Just beginning to learn how to share, make friends, take turns, and use the potty. Loves to tell stories, sing songs and dance, while trying hard to behave.
To speak to these children, Dr. Karp has developed two extraordinarily effective techniques: Then all the major challenges of the toddler years—including separation anxiety, sibling rivalry, toilet training, night fears, sleep problems, picky eating, biting and hitting, medicine taking — can be handled in a way that will make your toddler feel understood. Harvey Karp, M. Soothing and offers new hope and strategies to those who may have given up on making sense of the toddler years.
This is r-e-a-l help! The Happiest Toddler on the Block is one of the smartest parenting books of the past decade. Over and over, parents will find themselves proclaiming, "Thanks, Dr. Karp… Now I get it!