The Road Less Traveled And Beyond: Spiritual Growth In An Age Of Anxiety Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual . The Road Less Traveled. M. Scott Peck, M.D.. Discipline. With discipline - we can solve life's problems. By delaying gratification – confronting problems. Editorial Reviews. caite.info Review. By melding love, science, and religion into a primer on personal growth, M. Scott Peck launched his highly successful.
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The most common response I have received to The Road Less Traveled in nothing to do with it, but I think she was accurate my authorship of The Road. caite.info The Coaching Habit The The Road Less Traveled, 25th Anniversary Edition A NEW PSYCHOLOGY OF . A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth. In “The Road Less Traveled,” M. Scott Peck says that you’re asking the wrong question. We look over the right ones in the summary of his ultra-popular book.
I scratched my h e a d. Jawad Ur Rehman Bhutta. T h e paradox is that many times just doing nothing—just being w h o you are rather t h a n constantly focusing on what you do—is the m o r e loving a p p r o a c h. I only r u n in the evenings. I wrote: B u t w h e n w e use simplistic formulas b a s e d on the "normal"—or fashionable—thing to do, internal if not e x t e r n a l chaos is the usual result.
Because healthy groups can be so extraordinarily produc- tive i n a d d r e s s i n g e x t r e m e l y c o m p l e x issues. We have learned to build temporary communities in such organizations. It is from these p o o r souls. S e n g e coined the term "learning organization. The Fifth Discipline. A s always. Not only do we have a geographical territory a n d b e c o m e angry.
In the midbrain. It's m y fault. This requires extraordinary consciousness of what is going on b o t h inside a n d outside of ourselves. W e a l s o have a theological or an ideological territory. T h e truth is that we rarely do anything without s o m e gain or benefit to ourselves. I also like p r e t t y chil- dren. It is unconstructive a n d unnecessary. My p r e f e r r e d words for "constructive" a n d "unconstruc- tive" a r e.
We are naturally pain-avoiding creatures. But o n c e again. I ' m sorry. Even the speech patterns of neurotics a n d of those with character disorders are different. W h e n t h o s e w i t h character disorders are in conflict with t h e world.
Since the individual didn't want to have the condi- t i o n. Most psychiatric disorders were c a l l e d n e u r o s e s. I'm drawing a line. T h e discipline to discern what we are or. U l t i m a t e l y , w e have to choose whether or not to submit to God and, indeed, even choose the kind of G o d that we are going to submit to.
Submission to the light m i g h t be defined as submission to the choice of consciousness a n d hence, sight—both external sight a n d , particularly, insight. Because of cultural indoctrination, many people equate love w i t h d o i n g: T h e paradox is that many times just doing nothing—just being w h o you are rather t h a n constantly focusing on what you do—is the m o r e loving a p p r o a c h.
I am forever grateful to my p a r e n t s for t e a c h i n g me d u r i n g childhood a most pithy a n d powerful expression: W h y "music"? I d o n ' t k n o w h o w the expression originated. T h e r e are different kinds of career. A s a lawyer. A s a scientist. Just as s o m e discover that certain aspects of their vocation d o n o t fit o r feel r i g h t t o t h e m.
I a d v i s e d h i m how to get psychotherapy over there. It is gratis. It is free. We imagine everything to be a matter of m e r e accident or chance. So an "attitude of gratitude" may n o t entirely be a matter of c h o i c e.
It is. A grateful h e a r t is a mysterious thing. We can look at s o m e b a d luck as a blessing in disguise. Yet n o. If someone becomes c o n f i n e d to a wheelchair. T h e soul. This p h e n o m e n o n is not restricted to fiction. T o d i e gracefully. If we a r e willing to do so. I chose him n o t because we h a d any relationship or because he s e e m e d to be a particularly warm sort of p e r s o n — i n d e e d. N o w y o u j u s t pull yourself up by the bootstraps.
I ' m sure your parents would be quite upset. So why d o n ' t you just go along a n d do the best you can? He let me speak for thirty seconds. I n h a n d l i n g all life experiences. I do n o t simply m e a n business organizations. By organizations. Families are organizations. Organizational behavior includes n o t only h o w i n d i v i d u a l s b e h a v e i n t e m p o r a r y g r o u p s b u t also h o w groups—and even the organizations themselves—function.
For m e. Community Making and Peace. Such awareness requires con- s c i o u s n e s s. Civility Rediscovered. To t h e laboratory. To the older physicians w h o taught m e. To my landlord. To the barber who cut my hair. It changed once m o r e when the children e n t e r e d adolescence.
B u t t o have t h e capacity to m a k e such rapid changes. We h u m a n s are conscious to varying degrees. It has certainly c h a n g e d again as we moved from middle age into old age a n d my retirement. Lily c o i n e d the term "tenuousness. E v e n w i t h a relatively advanced degree of consciousness. It c h a n g e d again when the children were out of diapers. A n d while almost everyone is conscious of himself as an entity a n d is aware of his m o r e u r g e n t n e e d s a n d desires.
A n d those i n m a n a g e - m e n t may think of themselves as the most important. F o r in- stance. After all. We do not torture people if we think of t h e m as precious. Even they. In m a n y situations. As an e x a m p l e of such submission.
In dealing with such ethical complexities. N o ifs. T h e basic t e n e t of situation ethics. I have f o u n d t h e distinction between c o d e ethics a n d situation ethics to be help- ful. W i t h - out formulas. In The Different Drum. For s o m e years w e worried a b o u t the d e g r e e to which these roles were dictated by cultural.
But as we look at t h e organization of o u r marriage. Lily h a s t h e gift of flowing. Virtually every business school has a m a n d a t o r y c o u r s e en-. On t h e negative side. So differing roles a n d accountabilities imply structure.
But the larger a n d m o r e complex an organization becomes. It has but o n e underlying principle, which is "contingency the- ory. A think-tank organization is n o t g o i n g to draw t h e s a m e kind of p e o p l e as a m o r e traditional manufacturing company. Marketing departments are not going to draw the same kind of p e o p l e a s sales d e p a r t m e n t s. I was Mr. T h e work ran smoothly.
While the work went on, petty bickering started. It didn't. It got worse. T h e two four-hour m e e t i n g s we h a d were t h e stormiest I have ever attended. Everyone took potshots at me a n d at each o t h e r.
He couldn't. W h a t kind of structure? A clearer sense of rank? M a y b e they n e e d e d a stronger kind of leadership from m e.
It almost r e q u i r e d a revelation for me to realize t h a t it. B u t w e c o u l d n o t d o this work if it m e a n t that organizations h a d to a b a n d o n their hier- archical authority structure altogether.
T h e s e b o u n d a r i e s will vary from individual to individual a n d culture to culture. Each of us as individuals m u s t m a k e choices day in a n d day o u t in defining o u r b o u n d a r i e s within the framework of any organization. In India. O r w h e n t o confront a friend w h o seems to have taken the wrong path?
This is the d i l e m m a of vulnerability. N o r h a d she per- ceived that she h a d the power to m a k e such discriminating choices. To help m a k e that distinction in my lectures. In choosing how vulnerable we are going to be as h u m a n be- ings. I'm confused. I'm not sure where I am going. S t u p i d selfishness. T h e single greatest talent a psychotherapist can possess is t h e capacity to be simultaneously b o t h involved a n d d e t a c h e d.
But again. T h e y a r e reflec- tions of L o r d Acton's famous maxim: It resides n o t in position or in m o n e y b u t in the person's being. Political p o w e r d o e s n o t actually reside within t h e p e r s o n himself b u t r a t h e r in the position he holds in a hierarchy or in the money he hap- pens to have to create organizations to do what he wants to be d o n e.
I h a d to participate in the painful de-. It is the capacity to influence others. I do n o t m e a n to imply that there can be no overlap be- tween political a n d spiritual power. It is a function of t h e s t r u c t u r e of organizations. Yet o n l y t h o s e few a b l e t o r e t a i n their capacity for vulnerability are t h e truly great leaders.
I t was a t a five-day community-building w o r k s h o p for almost four h u n - d r e d p e o p l e at a beautiful retreat center in N o r t h Carolina. I'm so d a m n angry!
It is a gift. I believe that the p o w e r to heal. At eleven o'clock that evening. In contrast. We were seeing an example of the genesis of I n d i a ' s f i l t h. O t h e r waiters. From that incident. T h e other comes h o m e horrified by their experience. This responsibility is often abdicated. N o r m s are generally established or reestablished. Parents should not be despots.
I do n o t know the answer to that ques- t i o n. T h e other great power is an analogous one. But s o m e are m o r e dysfunctional than others.
T h e y are inseparable. G o d only knows. T h e actual cost to t h e taxpayers. It is i n h e r e n t in t h e complexity of t h e roles of parents a n d executives. S o m e d e - gree of responsibility b e y o n d simply paying taxes a c c o m p a n i e s the benefits of citizenship. T h e w o r d "Satan" originally m e a n t adversary. W h e n e v e r you take into considera- tion the multiple dimensions of any situation.
I n Christian. I wrote of this in People of the Lie. I n The Road Less Traveled. This same kind of compartmentalization can h a p p e n in any large organization. It can h a p p e n in businesses a n d in o t h e r areas of government. S u b u r b a n powder- cocaine users a n d middle. T o b e healthy. I n I n Search of Stones. A story told to me by my late father helps m a k e t h e point. We have established h o t l i n e s for r e p o r t i n g cases of child exploitation.
Wars a n d war crimes persist. Liberation theology proclaims that Christians. As Langford points out. I must add] to do nothing. I n h i s b o o k Christian Wholeness. Cel- e b r a t i o n theology has historically e n c o u r a g e d a focus on a n d celebration of the goodness a n d beauty f o u n d in the world. I am not. T h e y h a v e referred to me as an idealist—or. T h e r e is a consistency to t h e personality of individuals—and to t h e "per- sonality" of cultures or n a t i o n s as well—a consistency t h a t has b o t h a d a r k side a n d a light side.
In other words. But from t h e m o m e n t therapy begins.
Scott Peck M. I cite o n e s u c h particularly American reason. At the same time. T h e writer William Faulkner. N o t everyone can have the impact of a Rosa Parks. Given geographical a n d o t h e r limitations that t h e average c i t i z e n faces. I h a v e n o t t a k e n the time to study these places as deeply as I studied the Vietnam War. That's my j o b. I n this instance. But the choice of volunteerism must be weighed by many factors.
In t h e succinct w o r d s o f Ecclesiastes: Those intent on mak- ing money. M o n e y is a seductive mistress. As an adolescent. F r o m a psychospiritual per- spective. But w h a t is clear to me is that. W h a t truly constitutes wealth? In worldly t e r m s.
C o m m u n i t y building helps cut t h r o u g h people's sophistication to get to the heart of their innocence. We h a d to learn.
In particular. I had to learn. As I w r o t e in In Search of Stones. It encourages people to profoundly e x a m i n e their motives. O r just the clothes? T h a t o n e looks inconsequential. She Looks ordinary. This o n e looks influential. This o n e looks substantial. I beg Prowling t h e streets. He looks disheveled. Stalking for targets. I wonder: Limited resources.
Do they look At t h e faces? A few say Yes. With such limited resources. W h o the beggar. I p r o w l endlessly. Not having to move. I have a friend. Trying to look at just the clothes. Over the years. Julius Rosenwald. Volunteering is h a r d work. Those who d e p e n d on volunteers to help their organizations succeed often find that the central p r o b l e m is getting a com- m i t m e n t from t h e m.
Because they are n o t paid. A n d strangely. As we were saying good-bye. W h e n I arrived at my new assignment. T h e "American College" primarily r e p r e s e n t e d t h e practitioners in t h e field.
T h o s e who b e l o n g e d to the College were treating patients on. T h a t there should be no schism in the body. But God hath t e m p e r e d the body together. I f the whole were hearing. As the body is o n e.
Is it an accident. But the learning continues—including that of learning h o w t o r e t i r e gracefully. Without FCE—as without our children—I would be a very stupid m a n. But if we cannot capture or measure God.
But t h e r e are e n o u g h hints a b o u t h u m a n spiritual behav- ior to constitute a science of sorts. Such people t e n d to be quite intelligent. T h e p e r s o n with a sacred consciousness. T h e individual with a secu- lar consciousness essentially thinks t h a t he is t h e c e n t e r of t h e universe. So part of the "science" of G o d is n o t only to consider that which is u n e x p l a i n a b l e to materialists. In h i s classic w o r k The Varieties of Reli- gious Experience.
For that reason. Di- mensions of the Christian Experience Gifts for the Journey is t h e o n l y specifically C h r i s t i a n b o o k I've e v e r w r i t t e n. Stages o f Faith. With m i n o r exceptions. Never- theless. T h e r e are some who worry that categorizing people in. T h e y are comfortable with t h e mystery of t h e sacred. P e o p l e i n this s t a g e a r e usually scientific-minded. On t h e l a m from his brother. Something extraordinary then happens. But finally. In t h e sixteenth century.
Is- rael includes t h e entirety of o u r struggling infant humanity. T h i s psychospiritual baggage is often unconstructive a n d unneces- sary. T h e results of that event were decidedly unpleasant. Accord- ing to the unwritten contract. As I have already n o t e d. T h a n k s to the secularization of education. Piaget's stages of cognitive d e v e l o p m e n t. Nihilism suggests that there's no u n s e e n o r d e r to things.
To teach values is to suggest that things do matter. H e r mother. A l t h o u g h mischievous at times. But only recently are we b e g i n n i n g to see the limitations of t h e Age of Reason. N o u n s are categories. Yet i t exists.
W h e n we parted at the Minneapolis airport. To be perfectly h o n e s t. Some- w h a t e x p e r i e n c e d with t h e Holy Spirit's capacity for persis- tence. Creator of the whole universe would take time o u t to go run- n i n g with m e!
This time I did not shake my head. I was i n no hurry. I h a d never read the Book of Daniel. I n t h e first draft. This is inevitable. T o utilize d r e a m s effectively. Most with either a fundamentalist. B u t h o w a r e souls different from egos? F o r m a n y secularists. Earlier I defined the soul as "a God-created. In this respect. T h e latter explanation I can live w i t h. O n e of the biggest differences between the soul a n d the ego is that the ego is closer to the surface of w h o we are or be- lieve o u r s e l v e s t o b e.
A l t h o u g h egos can be described in general. T h e s e parts are real. But exactly h o w the soul a n d e g o interact re- mains mysterious.
But at t h e very least. They are n o t a s h a m e d to be "softhearted". For t h o s e w h o a r e spiritually oriented. T h e deepest healing occurs not in the mind.
Beyond that. T h e most c o m m o n barriers include expectations. I t i s also noisy. T h i s i s when an extraordinary a m o u n t of healing and converting be- gins to o c c u r — n o w that no o n e is deliberately trying to convert or heal.
It is a kind of peace. But the experience of having grown from emptiness leaves a l a s t i n g i m p r i n t. Most p e o p l e think of prayer as simply "speaking to God. But what is prayer? This type of prayer is often r e f e r r e d to as con- templative prayer. A n d usually it is wordless. Rightly or wrongly. Although t h e r e is great virtue in b o t h public a n d formal prayer. I think—is 'I believe.
S o m e years ago. I h a d things reversed. Dreams that o n c e provided revelations seem to have dried u p. I believe. Gifts for the Journey. M i g h t G o d deliberately m a k e Herself inaccessible?
It is conceivable. I s G o d sadistic? I t makes sense o n c e we stop thinking of G o d as omniscient. Insofar as G o d is a creator. An equally i m p o r t a n t a d d e n d u m has c o m e over the course of the past fifty years to be called process theology.
H e n c e perfection must be unchanging. Butterscotch sauce. I scratched my h e a d. A n d t h e closer to perfection we are. A n d if we see ourselves or o u r organizations suffering.
It's alive. So take a n o t h e r inexplicable hu- m a n. We thirst because t h e r e is drink. But m a k e no mistake: True glory is ours only insofar as we s u b m i t ourselves to t h e true G o d. On the one hand. B u t t o a considerable extent I can choose to decently nurture or n o t n u r t u r e myself. On the other. God is unquestionably o u r creator.
T h e c o n c e p t of "cocreatorship" a n d the responsibility it entails have b e c o m e quite p o p u l a r in theology in r e c e n t years.
Concluded by commenting. Darling Lord: Note my words. You c r e a t e d me to be precise with words. Without intent. At thirteen I went to b o a r d i n g school. And an orchard where the neighbor's sheep Grazed. A n d I knew my parents loved m e.
Vaguely I recall a r g u i n g Your existence With my adolescent friends. To fashion. It doesn't matter. Certainly by college. I do n o t m e a n I never withhold A piece of truth now a n d then. I cannot imagine Anything I could ever have d o n e To deserve Such kindness. There is nothing that compels me To find Your presence in sunrise or sunset. A n d while I could choose To see Your h a n d in these matters. I knew a b o u t sociobiology a n d o t h e r Modern notions. It is n o t beyond me to imagine A wondrous accident.
Famine and flood.
Is it? This business of revelation. I cannot handle: And those coincidences Which might be merely amusing If they could be u n d e r s t o o d as such.
Of setting Yourself aside F o r t h e s a k e o f love. To Your namelessness. To Your a p p a r e n t absence W h e n I want Your presence. Utterly unpredictable. To Your unpredictability.
Coming to me Whenever. W i t h gladness. To publicly acknowledge Your P e r s o n h o o d? I am so slow.
I d i d it myself. I w a n t e d To be sophisticated. But You have a personality. As we are accustomed to think Of bodies. Most important. You a r e n o cipher. A personality definite b e y o n d o u r own.
A personality vibrant beyond o u r imagination. I sense the awesome energy R e q u i r e d. I can only assume Y o u suffer so o v e r us all. But never have I sensed in You O n e s e c o n d o f despair. You are. Your delight in Your creation seems constant. Unlike m e. Well, delaying gratification is the exact opposite of this. So, from now one, if you made a mistake — you were the one who made it. Which leads us to the third aspect of discipline: People, says Peck, will rather lie to themselves if that helps them adapt.
Finally, discipline is about balancing as well. But, you should invest some time learning it. Believing it to be much more universal and profound than your Hollywood-based version of it probably is, Peck argues that love is what you do when you extend your nemesis, the ego , towards someone else.
Almost obviously, from discussing love, Peck moves on to discussing religion in the third part of his book. Once again, he tackles one misconception after another to prove that religion is something more than merely an organized system of thought.
Which brings him to the last part of his book and his discussion about something as ineffable as grace. In order to bring this indescribable concept closer to his readers, Peck selects few real-life stories, which, in his opinion, show that miracles happen all around us. And, obviously, he believes that these miracles are prove that you are not alone in this universe. Your Everyday Menu: Discipline, a Four-Layered Sandwich 2.
Love Is an Action, Not a Feeling 3. Laziness Is the Original and the Ultimate Sin. And, in his opinion, discipline means delaying gratification, accepting responsibility, being honest and truthful, and, finally, balancing. But, nothing that matters in life is easy. Peck believes that love is both the most important and the most misunderstood aspect of living.
The way he sees it, love has nothing to do with romance and feelings. Love is active, and crammed with responsibilities and risks. You probably think that pride or the strive for knowledge is the original sin.
However, Peck thinks otherwise. In a nutshell, that Eve and Adam were lazy to take the time and energy to debate whether eating the fruit is good or bad.